Woman Lies About Identity After Getting Caught Cheating at a Wedding, Says She Is Another Guest, Roping Others Into Her Drama

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Aug 29, 2024 6:00 PM EDT

Welcome, gossiping goddesses from around the web. What do you do when you get caught doing something you ought not be doing - like stealing a cookie from your roommate's stash, scrolling through social media in your cubicle on your work computer, or cheating on the diet you promised your partner you would participate in with them? Some people take responsibility immediately and apologize profusely as soon as light is shed on their misdeeds; others run away with their tail between their legs, and for some people, their immediate reflex is to lie. Such was the case in our story today, when a woman was caught getting in on with a taken man in a private room at a wedding. Unfortunately, her gut-reaction when questioned was to assume the identity of our protagonist's sister. 

Because the wedding was so large, not everyone was well-acquainted, and the lie quickly spread that OP's sister was the one caught with the groomsman. Read below for the full details - and trust me you will want them because this tale is cray-cray. 

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  • 01
    r/Bestof Redditor Updates r/ u/Direct-Cat... 1d Satan is not a • My [24F] best friend [23F] did something horrible at a mutual family friend's wedding, and blamed it on my younger sister [19F]. I am considering cutting ties with her but am having a hard time
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  • 02
    My [24F] best friend [23F] did something horrible at a mutual family friend's wedding, and blamed it on my younger sister [19F]. I am considering cutting ties with her but am having a hard time.
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  • 03
    Original Post - rareddit Oct 10, 2016 Hi Reddit! This is a bit of an unusual situation, but I'll try to explain it as best as I can. The story involves myself [24F], my best friend Caroline [23F], my younger sister Nicola [19F], and our mutual friend / groomsman Daniel [28M]. Using real names because I know Caroline doesn't Reddit, and if anyone who witnessed this happens to see this I'd love for them to get the ACTUAL facts of the story.
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  • 04
    So over the weekend a very good family friend of both my family and Caroline's family was getting married. Caroline and I have been best friends for years - we met when we were toddlers, our moms are best friends, our sisters are friends, etc etc - you get the picture. We knew that both of our families would be invited to this wedding and we were looking forward to it for months. It's important to note that Caroline's family and my family have a ton of mutual friends, and this was going to be a
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  • 05
    Everything was going fine and dandy until Caroline got completely wasted. She kept talking to me about how hot one of the groomsmen (Daniel) was, and how she'd had a crush on him for years but he showed no interest. This was probably because he was in a serious relationship and had been dating his current girlfriend for ~6 years. The girlfriend decided not to attend this wedding because she didn't know the bride and groom very well and because Daniel would be a groomsmen she wouldn't see him ver
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  • 06
    Fast forward a couple of hours and Caroline is hanging all over Daniel. She's constantly asking him to dance with her, get her drinks from the open bar, etc. She's point blank throwing herself at him and it was embarassing and painful to watch. I tried intervening a couple of times to get her off of him, but she snapped at me and at that point I decided that it wasn't my problem. Furthermore, Daniel wasn't completely pushing her away! He looked like he had a few drinks in him as well and seemed
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  • 07
    I didn't witness this next part, but by the end of the night Caroline and Daniel were having in a different room of the hall (yes it escalated quickly). To their misfortune, someone (I'm not sure who, just that it was someone's mom who knew Daniel and his girlfriend, but didn't know Caroline) walked in on them, and for some reason Caroline told this woman that she was Nicola (my sister)!! I don't know if she was embarrassed or drunk or what, but she purposely identified herself as Nicola so Caro
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  • 08
    Word QUICKLY spread that Daniel and Nicola were caught having , and Nicola was mortified. People were talking about how disrespectful, homewrecking, rude, Nicola was! I honestly can't even blame them - had I not known better, I would be thinking the same things. On top of that, Caroline had gone around actually telling other people that it was Nicola and confirming the rumour she started!
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  • 09
    The bride and groom were 1, everyone was talking badly about my sister and Caroline seemed to not care. In fact, when I confronted her about the situation at the wedding she straight up denied it! Had Daniel not confirmed that it was Caroline he was hooking up with and not Nicola I might have even believed her.
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  • 10
    The next day Caroline texted Nicola a half hearted apology about the whole thing, saying she was "so drunk" and "didn't know what she was doing." The texts included a lot of "lol"s and "haha"s, so I'm not sure how seriously Caroline is taking the situation. She doesn't seem to realize how mortified Nicola is. Nicola genuinely thinks that her life is ruined. We live in a very tight knit community, and a lot of people have heard the false version of what went down.
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  • 11
    I'm at odds with what to do. Up until this point, Caroline had been a very good friend to both I and Nicola. I'm just not sure if I can forgive her for this, especially considering her lack of consciousness about how bad the situation really is. Should I dump her? Or should I give her another chance? Our friendship will be different regardless, my family sees Caroline in a completely different light now, so even if I forgave her we wouldn't be able to do a lot of the same things we used to (hang
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  • 12
    EDIT: At this point, a lot of people know that it was Caroline with Daniel, and not Nicola. However I'm not sure how many is "a lot." Our family friends know, but there were a lot of guests at the wedding who knew Caroline's family better than they did mine. I'm sure these people still think it was Nicola. EDIT 2: Another issue is that Nicola is also terrified of the potential ramifications from Daniel's current girlfriend. I have absolutely no updates on the situation with the girlfriend, I don
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    EDIT 3: Because a lot of people are asking me how I could even consider remaining friends with Caroline - prior to this experience, she was honestly a great best friend. Of course we've had our ups and downs like all friends do, but she has always been a kind and caring person and I really valued our friendship. I've known her my whole life and the evening at the wedding was very uncharacteristic of her (including her coming onto a man who was in a relationship). Throwing away a friendship with
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  • 14
    tl;dr: Best friend hooked up with a taken groomsman at a mutual friend's wedding, when got caught said she was my sister. Everyone was upset with my sister and I don't know how to proceed.
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  • 15
    RELEVANT COMMENTS OtherkindofMermaid If Caroline wants to continue your friendship, she needs to make this right and tell everyone that she lied. If she doesn't, then I would personally cut ties. Being drunk is no excuse for what she did. I think Nicola needs to stand up for herself, as well. She should be very clear with people that she would never do something like that. Tell her not to let someone else ruin her reputation. If Caroline won't set the record straight, Nicola, you, and your famil
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  • 16
    OOP Thanks for the suggestion - I haven't actually considered asking Caroline to go public and own up to the situation. I think I'll do this, I actually have no idea how she will react. Caroline is usually a decently moral person but she also hates confrontation so I wonder how she'll take that. My family and I have been trying to set the record straight but it's really hard to un-do a rumour that has spread around to so many people (a lot of which we are not that close with), mostly because nob
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    - Update rareddit Oct 16, 2016 (6 days later) First off, I wanted to give a HUGE thank you to everyone who responded. I definitely did not expect such a large of amount of help and guidance from everyone. This community is awesome and I really appreciate everyone's time and advice. I unfortunately could not respond to very many people's posts as I left the thread overnight and once I woke up it was locked, so I figured the least I could do is provide an update.
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  • 18
    So about a week and a half ago Caroline casually called me and asked to sleep over. She wanted to attend an event downtown and my place was much closer to the event than hers. At this point, it became very clear that Caroline had no idea anybody was upset with her, despite the fact that Nicola and I hadn't spoken with her since the wedding. I told Caroline that I didn't think her sleeping over was a good idea, and when she had asked why, I brought up what happened at the wedding. She laughed and
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  • 19
    Well Reddit, I took your advice and let her have it. I told her how selfish and inconsiderate she was, and if it truly was "no big deal," then she should have no problem taking full responsibility for her actions and publicly acknowledging that SHE was the one who hooked up with Daniel, and not Nicola. I told her she needed to make things right because Nicola was still mortified over something she didn't do.
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  • 20
    At the end of the phone call I gave her an ultimatum - post an apology to Facebook, and spill the beans about what actually happened, or our friendship was over (thanks to the Redditor who suggested this!). To my complete and utter surprise, she did it. I thought it would make me feel better, but people were actually commenting on her FB status commending her bravery, and the fact that she "did the right thing!" I was super annoyed because of course she would never have done this had I not force
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  • 21
    Oh, and an update on Daniel and his girlfriend: According to his Instagram, they are happily together. Whether or not she knows about Caroline, I don't know and I don't care. Not my trainwreck. tl;dr: Gave Caroline an ultimatum to post the truth on Facebook or stop being friends. She posted it on Facebook. Daniel and his girlfriend are still happily together. I'm still rolling my eyes.
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  • 22
    DrRocknRolla • 1d Caroline getting a pat in back (not even a slap on the wrist) is absolutely frustrating, though. Reminds me of a "friend" I had called Caroline who wanted to pit me and my best friend against each other, and we'd been friends for 10 years at that point. Thankfully best friend noticed, told Caroline to I off, and never spoke to her again. Caroline. Reply 7.4k
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    Early-Low2891 • 1d I so would have gone online and condemned those who were calling Nicola the homewrecker yet they forgive the real culprit. Man, I would go scorched earth for my sister if someone accused her of this bull and condemned her. People saying she should stand up for herself she's 19, still a teenager, not fully an adult. Even a full-on adult would find that hard to deal with. Reply 2.4k
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    Prancing Red Pony • 1d along with being a over this, I'm also a cat. I personally would have made a stink right at the moment and confronted Caroline on the wedding as soon as she started spreading those lies! 679
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    Acid RainBowTie Fightr⚫ 1d crow whisperer Ugh. I hope she doesn't really stay friends with Caroline. Regardless of the Facebook post. ← Reply 778
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    Turbulent-Parsley619. 1d he karmaed himself right into the gutter Why do people always start with "My friend did this horribly irredeemable thing that hurt tons of people" and then go, "But everything ELSE about them is super awesome!" They do the same with partners, too. "Hannibal Lecter was a marvelous chef and a welcoming host, he was just a tad murdery sometimes." Reply 424
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    LynetteScavo78 • 18h Interesting how Caroline or Nicola are bashed for being homewreckers while the one actual cheater is just an afterthought. Reply 111
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  • 28
    KCyy11. 1d You can either in the jar or me but not both I would still drop her. Why that isn't the ending to this is beyond me. A garbage person surrounded by doormats. Reply û 21 ♡
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